Question in the Affirmative: I do that because...

A Place of Inquiry

When we talk in the affirmative, we are operating from a place of inquiry.  That is a place where we question everything we think, say, or do until we have a workable reason why.  It is responsible to know why we make our choices.  It is an exhilarating process to be actively involved in our choices, opposed to “conditioned” to making them.  In fact, you may discover that you actually love the choice you have always made, and now you will be aware of it as a choice and have an appreciation for the choice.  In that appreciation is power!  This is the process of deconditioning, as I termed it many years ago when I began the process.   

As you become more clearly aware of yourself and your principles, the sooner you are clear on the choices you make for everything.  Even if that choice is trusting without reason, for those of us who are spiritual or religious.  I never disconnect from anyone’s challenge of my choices.  It helps me remain connected to the choices if they are solid and continue to fit within my vision for how I want the world to be.  If I learn something that causes me to shift in my choices, which has happened, based on information I get from another person, then I am grateful for the growth and guidance in the “right” direction.  I often connect even more with those who will stand and challenge me.

When my choices are challenged, I will state my reasoning, assuming I have one.  (If I have no reason that is a problem in itself!)  Often others feel that their choices are challenged when I remain clear on my reasoning and it remains different from theirs.  This is sometimes the case, especially if I am in any sort of direct relationship with the person.  (The place of inquiry includes questioning others as well.)  Many times, I am just passionately clear on why I made my choice, with no intent in challenging another’s choices.  However, whether I am in a direct relationship with a person or not, I am usually curious about others’ choices and why they choose what they choose, especially, but not exclusively, if they different from mine. Whenever I am resolute about my choice, it is because I have actively chosen it.  If the person shares information that inspires me to choose to shift my choice to something that serves me in creating the world I want to live in, I am grateful to them.  If not, they may choose to shift.  If not, we can respectfully agree to have differing perspectives, no judgment, nor malice…on my part.

So, the question that guides them all, in that place of iquiry, becomes, “How do I want the world to be?”  The choices I make, and the questions I ask myself to discover the choice to make will all be based on that question.  If I want the world to be filled with people who have joy in their lives, then I get to make choices that will serve joy.  I could tell a restaurant server that his service was awful in a way that forwards him to do better or I could make the situation miserable for him.  Making it miserable will not contribute to what I want in the world, if it is joy.  It is my part in creating joy…an important part; the only part that I can contribute which would be missing if I withheld it.  A part that I may never even see how it affects the world through the person with whom I consciously chose the way I am going to be with, instead of being reactionary without choosing in that moment.  

Talk in the affirmative requires a willingness to be in a place of inquiry.  Willingness to question your choices, and to question, with the intent of forwarding or being forwarded, the choices of others’, especially those with whom you are in relation.  It is in a place of inquiry that we focus on the “what is wanted” opposed to “what isn't wanted”…forwarding! 

How do I want to the world to be?

Who do I want to be in the world?

What choices do I make in order to have those turn out?

Question in the Affirmative!